When do we get hurt?
Your body hurts when:
- You fall down and hurt your leg.
- You drink hot coffee and your mouth burns.
- You get a cold and you hurt all over.
Your head and heart hurt when:
- Someone says something mean.
- You feel sad about something.
- You think about bad things a lot.
What can you do when your body feels hurt?
You go to a doctor:
- To find out what’s wrong.
- To find out how to get better.
- What do you do when your head or heart feels hurt?
What can you do when your head and heart feel bad?
It helps to talk to someone who will:
- Ask questions.
- Share ideas.
- Keep things private.
You can talk to someone who knows and cares about you. For example, you can:
- Talk to a friend.
- Talk to someone in your family.
- Talk to someone you work with.
- You can also talk to someone called a counselor.
What is counseling?
- Counseling helps make the hurt in your head and heart go away.
- Sometimes counseling is called therapy.
Who does counseling?
Counselors are sometimes called:
- Social Workers.
- Marriage and Family Counselors.
Read Maria's story.
Maria and her parents fight every day.
- They yell.
- They call each other names.
- Then they don’t talk to each other.
- At work, Maria thinks about her family and starts to cry.
- She asks her minister what to do.
- He says they should talk to a family counselor.
What happens in counseling?
In counseling, people talk.
- Don’t be afraid to say what you feel.
- Some people use drawings or music to show how they feel.
- The counselor will listen and ask questions.
Together, you can decide:
- Why you feel bad.
- What you can do to feel better.
Is your counselor right for you?
After your first meeting, ask yourself:
- Do you feel good talking to this person?
- Do you trust him or her?
- Do you want to go back?
- Did he or she explain everything so you understand?
- If you answer “no” to any of these questions, you can ask for another counselor.
You may want to join a support group.
A support group is a group of people who get together to help each other by:
- Sharing stories.
- Giving ideas on how to feel better.
People talk about lots of things in a support group, such as:
- Feeling sad after someone dies.
- Feeling unhappy with life.
- Drinking too much alcohol or eating too much.
- Anything that gets them down.
Where can I find a support group?
- Ask your Regional Center service coordinator.
- Ask your support staff.
- Ask your friends.
- Call 211 - Ask about support groups for people with developmental disabilities.
- Call your local Area Board.
- Go online and search for support groups.
Read more about Maria and her family.
- The family went to a counselor several times.
- He helped them talk to each other.
They shared ideas about:
- What makes people angry.
- How to get rid of anger.
- How to do positive things every day - like telling each other something good that happened.
- They are getting along much better these days!