You can know people in different ways.
- You know some people very well… like friends and family.
- You spend lots of time together.
- You trust each other.
- You can tell them secrets and talk about anything.
But one person in your life may be special.
- This person is like your best friend, but even closer.
- This person may make you feel loved, happy, or excited.
- This person can be called:
- A boyfriend or girlfriend
- A husband or wife
- A lover
- A partner
People choose on other person to be their partner.
- If you pick a person and that person pick you, then...
- Both of you have a ‘relationship’.
Partners in a relationship like to:
- Be together a lot of the time
- Kiss and hug
- Hold hands
- Touch each other
- Sometimes they also choose to have sex
In a healthy relationship both of you make choices.
- Both of you choose when you want to be together.
- Both of you choose what you want to do together.
- Both of you choose if you want to:
- Touch each other, or
- Have sex.
Sex can be part of a healthy relationship.
- You can have sex only if both of you want to.
- You do NOT have to have sex with anyone if you don’t want to!
- If both of you choose to have sex, talk about safe sex first.
- Learn more about safe sex
Do you have a healthy relationship?
- Do you make choices together about what to do?
- Do you feel safe with your partner?
- Do you feel good when you are with him or her?
- Do you share feelings and ideas?
- Do you talk about it when you disagree?
- If so, it sounds like you have a healthy relationship.
- Do you have an unhealthy relationship?
- Do you feel sad, angry, scared, or worried around your partner?
- Does your partner make you do things you do not want to do?
- Do you hide feelings from each other?
- Do you yell or hurt each other when you disagree?
- If so, it sounds like you do not have a healthy relationship.
You can get hurt in an unhealthy relationship.
- If you think your relationship is not healthy, you should talk to:
- A friend or family member that you trust,
- Someone from your church, or
- A counselor.
- If your partner hits you, call 911 or tell someone you trust today!
Relationships can make you have strong feelings.
- You may have different feelings about your partner at different times:
- Or sometimes:
In a healthy relationship you can always talk about how you feel.
- Tell your partner how you feel.
- Talk about good feelings and bad feelings.
- Talk to close friends and family about your relationship, too.
- If you need to talk to someone else, ask your support person to help you find a counselor.
Learn more about relationships and sex on the DDS SafetyNet.
Last updated on April 2nd, 2010