Sometimes we hurt…
- Your body hurts when:
- You fall down and hurt your leg
- You drink hot coffee and your mouth burns
- You get a cold and you hurt all over
- Your head and heart hurt when:
- Someone says something mean
- You feel sad about something
- You think about bad things a lot
When your body feels hurt:
- You go to a doctor:
- To find out what’s wrong
- To find out how to get better
- What do you do when your head or heart feels hurt?
When your head and heart feel bad:
- It helps to talk to someone who will:
- Ask questions
- Share ideas
- Keep things private
- You can talk to someone who knows and cares about you:
- A friend
- Someone in your family
- Someone you work with
- You can also talk to someone called a counselor.
What is counseling?
- Counseling helps make the hurt in your head and heart go away.
- Sometimes counseling is called therapy.
Who does counseling?
- Counselors are sometimes called:
- Social Workers
- Marriage and Family Counselors
- Maria and her parents fight every day.
- They yell,
- They call each other names,
- Then they don’t talk to each other.
- At work, Maria thinks about her family and starts to cry.
- She asks her minister what to do.
- He says they should talk to a family counselor.
What happens in counseling?
- In counseling, people talk.
- Don’t be afraid to say what you feel.
- Some people use drawings or music to show how they feel.
- The counselor will listen and ask questions.
- Together, you can decide:
- Why you feel bad
- What you can do to feel better
Is your counselor right for you?
- After your first meeting, ask yourself:
- Do you feel good talking to this person?
- Do you trust him or her?
- Do you want to go back?
- Did he or she explain everything so you understand?
- If you answer “no” to any of these questions, you can ask for another counselor.
You may want to join a support group.
- A support group is a group of people who get together to help each other by:
- Sharing stories
- Giving ideas on how to feel better
- People talk about lots of things in a support group:
- Feeling sad after someone dies
- Feeling unhappy with life
- Drinking too much alcohol or eating too much
- Anything that gets them down
Where can I find a support group?
- Ask your Regional Center service coordinator.
- Ask your support staff.
- Ask your friends.
- Call 211 - Ask about support groups for people with developmental disabilities.
- Call your local Area Board.
- Go online and search for support groups.
More about Maria and her family...
- The family went to a counselor several times.
- He helped them talk to each other.
- They shared ideas about:
- What makes people angry
- How to get rid of anger
- How to do positive things every day - like telling each other something good that happened
- They are getting along much better these days!
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Last updated on May 21st, 2010